Fear, uncertainty and discomfort…three partners in divorce. Instead, try coping with divorce and triumphing!

“Fear, uncertainty and discomfort are your compasses toward growth.”

Author Unknown

Individuals facing separation and divorce often have terrible, painful bouts of fear, uncertainty and discomfort.  It feels awful.  It is only afterwards, as time has passed and you are able to gain a fresh perspective on your journey, that you realize the unexpected gift life has given you, the gift of personal growth and joy.

Coping with Divorce and Triumphing!

I have had the pleasure of seeing this in action many times at our River Chat™ divorce support group.  We will often have people drop in at the beginning of the divorce process, when their feelings are raw, their longing for things to be better palpable, their deep unhappiness evident.  The group helps by listening and offering suggestions where appropriate…but mostly listening.  Just listening.  It feels wonderful for us to be heard!  It can be our first step toward recovery.

One memorable incident was when a young man who was originally in this raw state returned to the group after being absent for a number of months.  He was completely changed, a wonderful example of coping with divorce and triumphing.  He had been seeing a therapist and working on himself, not his partner.  In the end, the only person we can change is ourselves and our perspective, our choices.

He shared that for months he kept thinking it would just take a moment for his partner to change her mind and come back to the marriage.  In the end, he realized it only took him a moment to change his perspective and realize he would be 100% okay whether she came back or not.  If she did, fine.  If she did not, also fine.  The change in this young man was remarkable!  He was excited about life and full of joy again.  And this is the part I love — by sharing his new perspective he was able to help our other members of our group who were still in that raw, painful state.

Am I saying everyone will change overnight and be instantly happy again?  No.  I am saying that this period of fear, uncertainty and discomfort in our lives brought about by separation and divorce can also serve a life-altering purpose.  It can be a time of introspection where you can work on your own personal short-comings.  Sorry if you’re not ready to hear this:  I don’t even know you, but I do know you are not perfect and you have short-comings.  You are human.

I believe as we continue to have the privilege of walking this earth we are meant to always strive to become better human beings.  It is difficult.  The reward can be electrifying.  It was electrifying for this young man.  He now faces his future with a better sense of self, less fear and a healthy excitement about life’s uncertainty.  Yes, life will always have uncertainties.  And that can be sooooooo thrilling, instead of bone-crunchingly terrifying.

Life can be exciting, fulfilling and hopeful if you do the work within yourself.

Tip for today:  If you are facing separation or divorce, find a therapist, life coach or divorce coach to help you navigate this portion of your ever changing river of life.  You will know you are successful when you can once again hear your river clap its hands in delight!!  Dappled sunshine can be part of your life again!

Ever Changing River, LLC is an online divorce process educational resource.  Your future matters.  Our professional divorce directory introduces you to divorce attorneys, CDFAs, mediators, financial advisors and other professionals.  Our River BaNC™ subscription membership offers you instant access to divorce educational videos to help you better understand the divorce process.  Knowledge equals better choices.  You are not alone.  Visit our website and browse our resources.

Edison didn’t give up….and don’t you, either!

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” Thomas A. Edison

This is one of my favorite quotes. We all see it repeated, in hindsight, over and over. Not today!! Not for you! Don’t give up!

If you need help through separation and divorce, please visit our website. We offer education and support throughout the process.

We are also life coaches…and yes, sometimes divorce coaches. We have a course starting in January 2013 — Hope and a 5 Year Plan. If you feel something is missing in your life, and would like to explore the tremendous opportunities ahead of you in a group setting, please email us at info@everchangingriver.com for details about our five-week series. You can change your life…if you don’t give up!

The growing trend of Senior Divorces

A recent Morningstar.com article is yet another in a lengthening list of stories being published about a growing trend….more and more Americans divorcing in their senior years.  Dubbed the Grey Divorce or the Silver Divorce, the trend is the same — later-in-life divorces around retirement age.   However, the financial picture is often not as rosy as it at first appears.

The article is written by Helen Modly and Tommie Monez.  Here is an excerpt:

“Many couples have held their marriage together for the benefit of their children, and once they are out of the house, the couples are ready to call it quits. Others realize that their vision of retirement is drastically different–she wants to stay in the community to spend time with the children and grandchildren, while he wants to move to Florida and spend every day on the golf course.”

“The initiator of the divorce, who is just as likely to be the wife as the husband, may anticipate a feeling of freedom and independence from being on his or her own. Women especially may create a new self-identity where they can finally focus on their own needs without having to constantly compromise with another person. This change in attitude, along with the possible addition of a new partner/spouse, can totally change the dynamics in a family, and can come with a very high financial cost.”  Read the complete article here.

Thanks to Pamela Sams, CRPC, MBA, for bringing this article to our attention.   Ever Changing River, LLC, offers monthly workshops and coffee chats to educate individuals about the divorce process.  We also offer divorce coaching.  Please visit our website for complete service offerings.

The Emotions of Divorce

Our thanks to Alison R. Guinasso, of All Is One Coaching, for this blog entry.  Alison is one of the many individuals listed on the Your Professionals portion of Ever Changing River, LLC’s website  who can help you through some aspect of separation and divorce.    You can read more about Alison here.

The Emotions of Divorce
By Alison R. Guinasso

Negative emotions are not feelings we like or even want to admit to feeling. And, yet, it is common during separation and divorce to have negative thoughts and worries. Some examples during this difficult time are:
• Your role in the failed marriage
• Economic consequences of divorce
• Finding a job after being a parent at home with children
• Your new role as a single parent
• Change in family relationships, both with your own and your spouse
• Having to sell your home
• Living a single lifestyle at an older age
• Loss of relationships with married friends
• Taking on new responsibilities with which you have no experience
• Relief that the relationship is over
• Fear
• Feeling unlovable
• Loneliness
There are many other examples, especially if there was abuse, infidelity or indifference in the marriage. Negative thoughts during divorce and separation can create a sense of isolation and lead to behaviors such as drinking, over-eating, depression, blaming, anger and even violence. It disrupts the vision of who we are in the world. We ask ourselves, “Who am I now?” If you are having any of these feelings, you are not crazy, you are not flawed, and you are not alone. Everyone goes through some version of these experiences. Separation and divorce create enormous change in our life, so it’s natural that our feelings and our sense of self will also be in flux.

Take heart; there is hope. This is an opportunity to practice deliberate self-care. Reaching out and connecting with supportive and empathetic people is key. So, how can we navigate this experience with compassion and empathy for ourselves? Brene Brown’s groundbreaking work on shame offers us four elements towards mitigating the weight of our negative emotions: 1. Recognize and understand your emotions; 2. Practice critical awareness of your feelings: see the big picture, know you are not the only one, and share your knowledge with others; 3. Reach out to others; 4. Speak about your concerns/troubles/worries. Just speaking about things helps normalize them. Practicing these elements develops your resilience to negative thoughts and behaviors and allows you to move forward with your new life.

Ever Changing River offers you several opportunities to practice these elements. River Chat is an informal divorce support group which allows you to share your experience and hear those of others. River BaNC is a workshop at which you can learn about aspects of divorce including the emotions that come with it. They also have an array of professionals who are available to help you on your journey.

However you decide to navigate this part of your life journey, know that you are not alone in your feelings and experiences. Reaching out to others and telling your story is the most courageous thing you can do for yourself. You get to choose how and who you want to be in your life. Negativity is not your only option. Knowing that you have empowering choices and practicing them with intention, compassion and empathy towards yourself is possible.

“Slowly, a new world will open for you.
The eyes of your heart, refined
By this desert time, will be free
To see and celebrate the new life
For which you sacrificed everything.”
– John O’Donohue

April 14, 2012, Separation and Divorce Workshop, Ashburn, VA. Mediation, Financial, Emotional Support and Real Estate Aspects Covered

April 14th – Separation and Divorce Workshop, Ashburn, VA  Visit our website for complete details and program information.

Ever Changing River, LLC is a local online and in-person educational resource about the issues surrounding separation and divorce, no matter where you are in the process. Decisions made at this critical juncture will impact the rest of your life. Oftentimes you must make important decisions when you are in emotional turmoil and least able to think rationally.

Divorce happens. Complete devastation as a result of divorce does not have to happen. Solid knowledge leads to better choices….and a better life following divorce, for you and your family.  Be proactive about your future.

When: April 14, 2012, 8:30 AM to 1:15 pm
Where: Long and Foster Realtors
43490 Yukon Drive, Suite 205
Ashburn, VA 20147
Cost: $30/pre-registered; $40/door; $15/returning attendees

Pre-registger here.

April 14, 2012 Presenters

Family Mediation Aspects: Daniel R. Burk, President, Resolution Point, LLC, and Family Mediator at Northern Virginia Mediation Service, serves Loudoun, Fairfax, Alexandria and Arlington. Danny Burk is an attorney licensed by the Commonwealth of Virginia since 1981 and the District of Columbia since 1984. He is also a Virginia Supreme Court certified mediator. Mr. Burke will talk about family mediation, what the process is, what is involved, and how it works.

Financial Aspects: Linda Black, ChFC, CRPC, has worked in the financial services industry for over 12 years. She has earned her Chartered Financial Consultant (ChFC) and Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor (CRPC) designations. Her practice is focused on financial planning and retirement income solutions for women. Linda helps her clients make financial decisions based on where they want to go next. She fully subscribes to a transformational approach to financial planning as opposed to a transactional one. Linda is licensed in Virginia and Maryland. Linda will talk about creating budgets for two households, valuing and dividing assets, the scenario approach to decisions, and retirement issues.

Emotional Aspects: Nina K. Flowers, LPC, MEd., of counseling Solutions, Inc., provides psychotherapy services for adults, adolescents, and children through individual, family and couples counseling. She has particular expertise in counseling those who are coping with their own or a family members’ abuse, mood or anxiety disorders, relationship or self-esteem concerns, ADD/ADHD and other disorders. Her primary theoretical orientations are Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy and Play Therapy. Nina will talk about the anxiety and stree — what they are, how to recognize them, and coping mechanisms.

Real Estate Aspects: Pamela Jones, ABR, CRB, GRI, Pamela Jones, Inc., Long and Foster Realtors, is a career REALTOR® who began working with buyers and sellers in1983. Her dedication to her clients made her the #1 agent in Loudoun County in 2006. Pam has excellent business sense, detailed knowledge of the local market, and outstanding negotiating skills. Pam will give an update of the local real estate market, which differs vastly from the “national” picture we so often hear about.

Life Coaching Aspects:  Ever Changing River, LLC, will lead you through some exercises to help you explore your next steps and create a “next steps” action plan. This action plan will be different for each person…from “let me continue to think about all this” to “here are my top 3 items to complete by next Friday.” It is important to find the approach that is best for you, not someone else.

What River BaNC Attendees Are Saying:

“What a great workshop format for individuals who are trying to educate themselves on the various aspects of separating and/or divorce. The environment was awesome, and a really great selection of presenters.”

“I learned so much from all the speakers. I feel better about my situation, knowing that I am not alone.”

“I will absolutely recommend this program.”

“Empowering!”

Disclaimer: River BaNC, River Chat and all Ever Changing River, LLC programs are intended for informational purposes only. They do not constitute legal, financial, emotional, real estate or mortgage advice or counseling. You should seek the advice of qualified legal, financial, psychological, real estate, mortgage and any other necessary professionals regarding your own individual situation outside of any Ever Changing River, LLC program.

 

March 3, 2012, Separation and Divorce Workshop in Northern Virginia Answers the Question, How do I get a divorce in Virginia?

Visit our website for complete program information: Ever Changing River, LLC.

Protect your future based on facts, not fear.  If separation or divorce might be just around the bend in your life, we can help. Don’t go it alone. Save time and money by joining us to learn from and talk with professionals in the family law, financial, real estate and therapy industries. Knowledge equals power, and knowledge is what this workshop is all about. We will help you come up with a game plan….from “let me continue to think about all this” to “here are the three things I will do next week.”

Attending this Ashburn, Virginia workshop does not mean you will divorce. Attending means you will have a plan if divorce does happen.

                            Our Presenters for March 3, 2012

Legal Aspects:  Patricia E. Tichenor, Esq.,owner and principal attorney of The Law Office of Patricia E. Tichenor, P.L.L.C., is an experienced domestic relations and general law attorney serving clients in Northern Virginia since October 2001.  Ms. Tichenor is dedicated to helping clients move forward with their lives, fighting to protect their rights with respect to custody, visitation, child support, and spousal support.  If an amicable settlement can be reached, Ms. Tichenor works to make the divorce process as simple, affordable and quick as possible. Ms. Tichenor will give an overview of the legal aspects of divorce, including the separation and divorce process, equitable property distribution, and custody and support guidelines.   

Financial Aspects:  Pamela J. Sams, CRPC, is a Financial Advisor with Financial Planning Services in Northern Virginia.  For 10 years, she has been helping women and their families improve their personal and financial wealth through good financial planning.  Her education and training enables her to help clients successfully navigate through the myriad of personal and financial decisions they face during their lives.  She assists them in attaining a higher level of financial security through education, understanding, and scenario planning.  Pamela will talk about creating budgets for two households, valuing and dividing assets, the scenario approach to decisions, and retirement issues.


Emotional Aspects:  Rona Hitlin-Mason, LPC,
also holds Masters degrees in Counseling and Development and Accounting, and a Post-Master’s Certificate in Marriage and Family Therapy.  She strongly believes that you have the strength and skills to weather this transition in  your life, and she finds it an honor to accompany people on their journey to self-acceptance and relief of symptoms.  Rona will give you an emotional roadmap, talking about the emotional stages of divorce and how best to manage yourself during this journey.  Her talk is entitled:  Right Now It’s Normal to feel “Crazy”!!

Real Estate Aspects:  Pamela Jones, ABR, CRB, GRI, Pamela Jones, Inc., Long  and Foster Realtors, is a career REALTOR® who began working with buyers and sellers in1983.  Her dedication to her clients made her the #1 agent in Loudoun County in 2006.  Pam has excellent business sense, detailed knowledge of the local market, and outstanding negotiating skills.  Pam will give an update of the local real estate market, which differs vastly from the “national” picture we so often hear about.
picture we so often hear about. 

Life Coaching Aspects:    Ever Changing River, LLC, will lead you through some exercises to help you explore your core values and beliefs, and then create your “next steps” action plan.  This action plan will be different for each person…from “let me continue to think about all this” to “here are my top 3 items to complete by next Friday.”  It is important to find the approach that is best for you, not someone else.  

Disclaimer:  River BaNC and River Chat programs are intended for informational purposes only.  They do not constitute legal, financial, emotional, real estate or mortgage advice or counseling.  You should seek the advice of qualified legal, financial, psychological, real estate, mortgage and any other necessary professionals regarding your own individual situation outside of any Ever Changing River, LLC program.

Dec 10, Montgomery County, MD – Divorce Workshop Answers the question: How do I get a divorce in Maryland, Virginia or DC? Plus tips for reducing holiday stress.

Visit our website for complete, up-to-the minute details on all our programs.
Ever Changing River’s next Rockville, MD separation and divorce workshop is Saturday, December 10th, 2011, at Universities at Shady Grove, Building 1, Room 104, 9630 Gudelsky Drive, Rockville, MD 20850. Visit our Website for complete information. Register here.

Note: Robert C. Eustice, Esquire, the family law attorney presenting on December 10th, practices family law in Maryland, Virginia and Washington DC.

River BaNC ™ is a divorce resource workshop, an informational Basic Navigational Course, through the complexities of how to get a divorce. At each workshop, you will meet local divorce experts, including a family law attorney, a financial adviser and a therapist, and learn practical information about how to become unmarried. By attending you gain empowering knowledge and support. Attending can save you time and money as you begin to consider your next steps.
Who should attend? If you or a friend are facing separation or divorce in Maryland, Virginia or Washington DC, you should attend this workshop to learn the basic legal, financial and emotional aspects of separation and divorce. We will share additional separation and divorce informational resources throughout the workshop.
Attending does not mean you will divorce. Attending means you will have solid, practical knowledge should you need it in the future.

When/Where: Saturday, December 10, 2011, 8:15 AM to 1:15 PM, at Universities at Shady Grove, Building 1, Room 104, 9630 Gudelsky Drive, Rockville, MD, 20850. Pre-registration preferred. $30/pre-registered; $40/door; $15/returning. Register here.
If you would like to attend with a friend, please do. Your friend can attend with you at no charge; please email info@EverChangingRiver.com to let us know they will be attending with you. Also, scholarships are available. Email us to discuss. Additional information at www.EverChangingRiver.com.

                                            Speakers for December 10, 2011
Legal Aspects: Robert C. Eustice, Esquire, of the Law Offices of Robert C. Eustice in Bethesda, Maryland, has 22 years of private practice experience, and has had a particularly strong emphasis on family law during the past 18 years. He practices in Maryland, Virginia and Washington DC. Trained as a collaborative family law practitioner, Robert also has years of courtroom experience to see you through a contested trial. Mr. Eustice will give an overview of the legal aspects of divorce, including the separation and divorce process, disposition of property, and custody and support guidelines.

Financial Aspects: Michael C. Mattison, ChFEBC, has been a registered representative since 1996. Mike has trained more than 2,000 financial professionals across the country. A nationally recognized public speaker on financial planning, Mike maintains the designation of Chartered Federal Employee Benefits Consultant. Mike will talk about the financial aspects of divorce, including financial considerations of asset division, retirement planning, budgets, debt and insurance.

Emotional Aspects: Toni Cortellessa LCSW-C, has a private practice in downtown Rockville. She has been in private practice since 1991 in Maryland and Washington, DC. She is a former faculty member at the Washington Center for Psychoanalysis in both the Couple and Family Therapy Training Program as well as the Modern Perspectives on Psychotherapy Program and is currently teaching at Georgetown Medical School. Toni completed Collaborative Divorce training in 2007 and has a special interest in helping individuals and families in transition. Toni will be speaking about the emotional stages of divorce and some tips on surviving the holidays.

Life Coach Aspects: Ever Changing River, LLC, will help you explore your core values, and create your “next steps” action plan. This action plan will be different for each person…from “let me continue to think about this all” to “here are my top 3 items I will complete by next Friday.” It is important to find the approach that is best for you, not someone else.

Disclaimer:  River BaNC and River Chat programs are intended for informational purposes only. They do not constitute legal, financial, emotional, real estate or mortgage advice or counseling. You should seek the advice of qualified legal, financial, psychological, real estate, mortgage, and any other necessary professionals regarding your own individual situation outside of any Ever Changing River, LLC program.

Nov 19, Montgomery County, MD Divorce Workshop Answers the question: How do I get a divorce in Maryland? Learn some tips to help enjoy the holidays during stressful times

Ever Changing River’s next Rockville, MD separation and divorce workshop is November 19th, 2011, at Universities at Shady Grove, Building 1, Room 104, 9630 Gudelsky Drive, Rockville, MD 20850. Visit our Website for complete information. Register here.

NOTE:  In November, we are also covering the tax aspects of divorce.  See details below.
River BaNC ™ is a divorce resource workshop, an informational Basic Navigational Course, through the complexities of how to get a divorce in Maryland. You will meet local divorce experts, including a family law attorney, a financial adviser, a therapist and a CPA, and learn practical information about how to become unmarried. By attending you gain empowering knowledge and support. Attending can save you time and money as you begin to consider your next steps.

Who should attend? If you or a friend are facing separation or divorce, and are in the Maryland or DC, you should attend this workshop to learn the basic legal, financial, tax and emotional aspects of separation and divorce. We will share additional separation and divorce informational resources throughout the workshop.

Attending does not mean you will divorce. Attending means you will have solid, practical knowledge should you need it in the future.

When/Where: Saturday, November 19, 2011, 8:15 AM to 1:15 PM, at Universities at Shady Grove, Building 1, Room 104, 9630 Gudelsky Drive, Rockville, MD, 20850. Pre-registration preferred. $30/pre-registered; $40/door; $15/returning. Register here.
If you would like to attend with a friend, please do. Your friend can attend with you at no charge; please email info@EverChangingRiver.com to let us know they will be attending with you. Also, scholarships are available. Email us to discuss.
Additional information at www.EverChangingRiver.com.

                                          SPEAKERS for NOVEMBER 19, 2011
Legal Aspects:  Regina A. DeMeo, Esquire, is a Montgomery County family law attorney who is nationally recognized as an author and lecturer on family law issues.  She was recently published by Aspatore’s Inside the Mind Series (2011), featured in Bethesda Magazine as one of the Top 25 Divorce Lawyers (2010), listed as a Rising Star by MD Superlawyers (2009-2012) , and recognized by the Washington Post, the ABA Journal and ABC’s Washington Bus. Tonight for her Collaborative efforts (June-July 2010).   Regina helps couples respectfully address their issues related to divorce, custody, support and property division in the District of Columbia and Montgomery County, Maryland.  Regina will give an overview of the legal aspects of divorce, including the separation and divorce process, disposition of property, and custody and support guidelines. 

Financial Aspects:  Michael C. Mattison, ChFEBC,a registered representative since 1996, is an advisory associate with Centaurus Financial, Inc.  Mike has trained more than 2,000 financial professionals across the country.  A nationally recognized public speaker on financial planning, Mike maintains the designation of Chartered Federal Employee Benefits Consultant.  Mike will talk about the financial aspects of divorce, including financial considerations of asset division, retirement planning, budgets, debt and insurance.  See Mike’s online bio at www.CentaurusFinancial.net (check computer volume; music will play).

Tax Aspects Mike Mandish, CPA, CSEP, is a Principal in the SC&H Financial Advisors practice of SC&H Group.  He was selected as a SmartCPA in 2010 by SmartCEO Magazine, and has over 20 years of experience.  As a former paralegal, Mike consults with attorneys on the tax and financial implications of various property settlement agreement scenarios.  Mike will give a general overview about the tax aspects of divorce.     

Emotional Aspects:   Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, a licensed psychologist with offices in Silver Spring, MD and Washington, DC, will talk about the emotional aspects of divorce. 


DisclaimerRiver BaNC and River Chat programs are intended for informational purposes only.  They do not constitute legal, financial, emotional, real estate or mortgage advice or counseling.  You should seek the advice of qualified legal, financial, psychological, real estate, mortgage, and any other necessary professionals regarding your own individual situation outside of any Ever Changing River, LLC program.

 

Sat, Nov 5, 2011 Northern Virginia (Ashburn) Workshop Answers the Question: How Do I Get A Divorce in Virginia? Including Tips for Surviving the Holidays.

Link to Workshop website. As the Holidays approach, our upcoming workshops will include tips for surviving the Holidays while you are in the midst of separation and divorce.  We are here to give you solid knowledge and support during this difficult time.  You are not alone.

Our next Northern Virginia Separation and Divorce workshop, “River BaNC ™ (Basic Navigational Course)”, is Saturday, Nov 5, in Ashburn. If you or a friend are facing separation or divorce in Northern Virginia (Arlington, Fairfax, Loudoun, Prince William and surrounding counties), please consider attending this workshop. We cover the basic legal, financial and emotional aspects of divorce, plus give you a current update on the real estate market in our area. This month we also have a life coaching segment. Better knowledge leads to better choices, for you and your family. Complete details at Ever Changing River, LLC website.

Our presenters are Patricia E. Tichenor, Esq., family law attorney; Pamela J. Sams, CRPC, financial advisor; Kathy Teeple, MA, parenting coach; Pamela Jones, ABR, with Long & Foster, and Life Coaching segment by Ever Changing River, LLC. Speakers are hyperlinked below.

When: Saturday, Nov 5, 8:30 AM to 1:15 PM
Where: Long & Foster, 43490 Yukon Drive, Suite 205, Ashburn, VA 20147

OUR SPEAKERS: November 5, 2011

Legal Aspects: Patricia E. Tichenor, Esq., owner and principal attorney of The Law Office of Patricia E. Tichenor, P.L.L.C., is an experienced domestic relations and general law attorney serving clients in Northern Virginia since October 2001. Ms. Tichenor is dedicated to helping clients move forward with their lives, fighting to protect their rights with respect to custody, visitation, child support, and spousal support. If an amicable settlement can be reached, Ms. Tichenor works to make the divorce process as simple, affordable and quick as possible. Ms. Tichenor will give an overview of the legal aspects of divorce, including the separation and divorce process, equitable property distribution, and custody and support guidelines.

Financial Aspects: Pamela J. Sams, CRPC, is a Financial Advisor with Financial Planning Services in Northern Virginia. For 10 years, she has been helping women and their families improve their personal and financial wealth through good financial planning. Her education and training enables her to help clients successfully navigate through the myriad of personal and financial decisions they face during their lives. She assists them in attaining a higher level of financial security through education, understanding and scenario planning. Pamela will talk about creating budgets for two households, valuing and dividing assets, the scenario approach, and retirement issues.

Emotional Aspects: Kathy Teeple, MA, with Pathways Parenting & Coaching, LLC, is passionate about children. Parenting issues can arise at any time during separation and even long after the final decree of divorce has been entered. For the past 10 years she has worked with parents in all stages of separation and divorce through Divorce Mediation Plus, Inc., in Leesburg, VA. Kathy has assisted parents in negotiation of a parenting agreement that is acceptable to everyone and emphasizing ways to improve and strengthen the on-going parenting relationship. With Master’s Degrees in both Counseling and Forensic Psychology, Kathy is a frequent guest lecturer on the topics of mediation, emotional issues of divorce, and the affect of divorce on children. Kathy will talk about the emotional stages of divorce and give you parenting tips to help your family during and following divorce.

Life Coach Aspects: Ever Changing River, LLC, will help you explore your core values and create your “next steps” action plan. These steps will be different for each person…from “let me continue to think about this all” to “here are my top 3 items I will complete by next Friday.” It is important to find the approach that is best for you, not someone else.

Real Estate Aspects: Pamela Jones, ABR, CRB, GRI, of Pamela Jones, Inc., Long and Foster Realtors, is a career REALTOR® who began working with buyers and sellers in1983. Her dedication to her clients made her the #1 agent in Loudoun County in 2006. Pam has excellent business sense, detailed knowledge of the local market, and outstanding negotiating skills. Pam will give an update of the local real estate market, which differs vastly from the “national” picture we so often hear about.

Disclaimer: River BaNC and River Chat programs are intended for informational purposes only. They do not constitute legal, financial, emotional, real estate or mortgage advice or counseling. You should seek the advice of qualified legal, financial, psychological, real estate, mortgage, and any other necessary professionals regarding your own individual situation outside of any Ever Changing River, LLC program.

Nov 5, 2011 Ashburn, VA Workshop Answers the Question: How Do I Get A Divorce in Virginia?

Link to Workshop website.  Our next Virginia Separation and Divorce workshop, “River BaNC ™ (Basic Navigational Course)”, is Saturday, Nov 5, in Ashburn.   If you or a friend are facing separation or divorce in Northern Virginia (Arlington, Fairfax, Loudoun, Prince William and surrounding counties), consider attending this workshop.  We cover the basic legal, financial and emotional aspects of divorce, plus give you a current update on the real estate market in our area.   This month we also have a life coaching segment.  Better knowledge leads to better choices, for you and your family.  Complete details at our website. 

Our presenters are Patricia E. Tichenor, Esq., family law attorney; Pamela J. Sams, CRPC, financial advisor; Kathy Teeple, MA, parenting coach; Pamela Jones, ABR, with Long & Foster, and Life Coaching segment by Ever Changing River, LLC.  Speakers are hyperlinked below. 

When:  Saturday, Nov 5, 8:30 AM to 1:15 PM

Where:  Long & Foster, 43490 Yukon Drive, Suite 205, Ashburn, VA  20147 

OUR SPEAKERS:  November 5, 2011

Legal Aspects:  Patricia E. Tichenor, Esq., owner and principal attorney of The Law Office of Patricia E. Tichenor, P.L.L.C., is an experienced domestic relations and general law attorney serving clients in Northern Virginia since October 2001.  Ms. Tichenor is dedicated to helping clients move forward with their lives, fighting to protect their rights with respect to custody, visitation, child support, and spousal support.  If an amicable settlement can be reached, Ms. Tichenor works to make the divorce process as simple, affordable and quick as possible. Ms. Tichenor will give an overview of the legal aspects of divorce, including the separation and divorce process, equitable property distribution, and custody and support guidelines.  
 
Financial Aspects:  Pamela J. Sams, CRPC, is a Financial Advisor with Financial Planning Services in Northern Virginia.  For 10 years, she has been helping women and their families improve their personal and financial wealth through good financial planning. Her education and training enables her to help clients successfully navigate through the myriad of personal and financial decisions they face during their lives. She assists them in attaining a higher level of financial security through education, understanding and scenario planning. Pamela will talk about creating budgets for two households, valuing and dividing assets, the scenario approach, and retirement issues. 
Emotional Aspects:  Kathy Teeple, MA,with Pathways Parenting & Coaching, LLC, is passionate about children.  Parenting issues can arise at any time during separation and even long after the final decree of divorce has been entered.  For the past 10 years she has worked with parents in all stages of separation and divorce through Divorce Mediation Plus, Inc., in Leesburg, VA.  Kathy has assisted parents in negotiation of a parenting agreement that is acceptable to everyone and emphasizing ways to improve and strengthen the on-going parenting relationship.  With Master’s Degrees in both Counseling and Forensic Psychology, Kathy is a frequent guest lecturer on the topics of mediation, emotional issues of divorce, and the affect of divorce on children.  Kathy will talk about the emotional stages of divorce and give you parenting tips to help your family during and following divorce.    
 

Life Coach Aspects:  Ever Changing River, LLC,will help you explore your core values and create your “next steps” action plan.  These steps will be different for each person…from “let me continue to think about this all” to “here are my top 3 items I will complete by next Friday.”  It is important to find the approach that is best for you, not someone else. 

Real Estate Aspects:  Pamela Jones, ABR, CRB, GRI, Pamela Jones, Inc., Long  and Foster Realtors, is a career REALTOR® who began working with buyers and sellers in1983.  Her dedication to her clients made her the #1 agent in Loudoun County in 2006.  Pam has excellent business sense, detailed knowledge of the local market, and outstanding negotiating skills.  Pam will give an update of the local real estate market, which differs vastly from the “national” picture we so often hear about.  

DisclaimerRiver BaNC and River Chat programs are intended for informational purposes only.  They do not constitute legal, financial, emotional, real estate or mortgage advice or counseling.  You should seek the advice of qualified legal, financial, psychological, real estate, mortgage, and any other necessary professionals regarding your own individual situation outside of any Ever Changing River, LLC program.