Jan 17, Focus on Mediation Aspects of Separation and Divorce, Ashburn, VA

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Gain knowledge and support.  Be proactive and protect your future.

Save time and money by attending multiple Focus Groups.  Speak with the professionals.

Typically each month Ever Changing River, LLC presents three Focus Groups – one each concentrating on the emotional, financial and legal aspects of separation and divorce.  You do not need to go through this process alone.  And if it is overwhelming for you right now, consider asking a friend to attend with you.  Let us know ahead of time, and your friend can attend with you at no cost.

 

When:    Thursday, Jan 17, Focus on Mediation

                  Mediation Aspects of Separation and Divorce in Virginia

                  Plus a very quick update on the real estate market

                 6:30 to 8:00 PM

Where:  Ashburn Long and Foster Realtors Training Room

43490 Yukon Drive, Suite # 205

Ashburn, VA   20147

Cost:     $15/pre-registered; $20/door (or free for members*)

Link to Register for Focus on Mediation, Jan 17

FAMILY MEDIATION ASPECTS:

Daniel R. Burk, CDFA, is President of Resolution Point, LLC, a company that provides mediation, arbitration, resolution consultation and group facilitation services.  He is also a Family Mediator at Northern Virginia Mediation Service.  Mr. Burk serves the Loudoun, Fairfax, Alexandria and Arlington areas.  Danny Burk is an attorney licensed by the Commonwealth of Virginia since 1981 and the District of Columbia since 1984.  He is a Virginia Supreme Court certified mediator. Danny is also a CDFA, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst.  Mr. Burk will talk about family mediation — what the process is, how it works, what is involved.

 

REAL ESTATE ASPECTS:

Pamela Jones, ABR, CRB, GRI, of Pamela Jones, Inc., Long and Foster Realtors, is a career REALTOR® who began working with buyers and sellers in 1983.  Pam will answer any quick questions on the local real estate market, which differs vastly from the “national” picture we so often hear about.


* Focus Groups Membership Package:  $60.00 for six months, which lets you attend attend all “Focus” groups at no additional charge (a $210 savings) within your membership period.  Attend as many times as you wish during your membership period to gain support and knowledge.  We will generally offer three Focus groups each month, one each focusing on the legal, money or “me” aspects of separation and divorce.  

 

Disclaimer Focus Groups, River Chat, River BaNC and all other Ever Changing River, LLC programs are intended for informational purposes only.  They do not constitute legal, financial, emotional, real estate or mortgage advice or counseling.  You should seek the advice of qualified legal, financial, psychological, real estate, mortgage and any other necessary professionals regarding your own individual situation outside of any Ever Changing River, LLC program.

 

What others are saying:

“I learned so much.  I feel better about my situation, knowing that I am not alone.”

I will absolutely recommend this program.”

“Empowering!”

“What a great workshop format for individuals who are trying to educate themselves on the various aspects of separating and/or divorce.  The environment was awesome, and a really great selection of presenters.”

July 7, How Do I Get a Divorce in Virginia Workshop, Ashburn, VA

Our next separation and divorce workshop, which covers the legal, financial, emotional and real estate aspects of separation and divorce, will be July 7th, 2012, 8:30 AM to 1:15 PM, at Long and Foster in Ashburn, VA. We answer the question: How do I get a divorce in Virginia?

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Success in Divorce is all about Education and Support – June 2, 2012 Ashburn VA Workshop

Successful individuals, when faced with the unknown, are fearful like everyone else, but they are not controlled or limited by their fear. They work through it…often with education to demystify the unknown.

If you are facing separation and divorce, attend our workshop this Saturday, June 2, at Long & Foster in Ashburn.   Learn about the legal, financial, emotional and real estate implications of separation and divorce.  Read more.   http://www.everchangingriver.com/Ashburn_VA_Divorce_Workshop.html

Parenting Through Divorce, Part 2 of 3. Divorce Workshop, July 23, 2011, Rockville, MD

Note:  If separation or divorce might be in your future, consider attending one of our workshops.  Hear from legal and financial professionals about the law and your money, and let the therapists help you deal with your emotions.  Depending upon location, you will also hear from real estate, mortgage or health and wellness experts.

Our next separation and divorce workshops are July 23, 2011 in Rockville, MD (Montgomery County) and August 6, 2011 in Ashburn, VA (Loudoun County).   Info at
Ever Changing River, LLC

Enjoy our continued Parenting through Divorce series.

Parenting Through Divorce, Part 2 of 3
by Nina K. Flowers, LPC

(This is Part 2 of a Three-Part Series, Parenting Through Separation or Divorce)

“Please don’t try to make your children choose between you or your spouse.  Children who take sides in the battles between their parents invariably regret it.  It may come in their teens or young adulthood, but the child almost always endures agonies of guilt.  Often the child turns bitterly against the parent that allowed this to happen.  Placing a child in the middle, and trying to make him or her feel guilt for being fair, decent, or affectionate toward the other parent, seriously damages the child’s psychological well-being and character.  It’s a cruel way to take advantage of one’s own child.

Do your best not to upset the child’s routine any more then you have to.  Children need a sense of continuity.  If you have to move, try hard to stay in the same school district so they have fewer losses.  Separated parents who may be giving the same children mixed messages about rules of behavior should communicate frankly and directly with each other on disciplinary issues in order to provide consistent rules and limits for the children.

As you well know, dissolution of a marriage often leads to financial pressures on both parents.  When there is a financial crisis, the parents’ first impulse may be to keep the children from realizing it.  Often, they would rather make sacrifices themselves than ask the children to do so.  The atmosphere is healthier when there is frankness and when children are expected to help.  Blaming the opposing party for this may be hard to resist, but it will probably land you back in court.  This is hard on the children.”

References:

  • Children and Divorce; Family Law Section of the Virginia State Bar
  • Co-Parenting, Two Parents – Two Homes; Family Services and Involvement Section, Fairfax County Public Schools.
  • Helping Children Cope with Separation and Divorce; American Mental Health Counselors Association.

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We thank Nina K. Flowers, LPC, of Counseling Solutions, Inc., for sending us the above blog post. Nina has presented at some of our Separation and Divorce workshops, and also participates in our “Your Experts” online paid directory.

Nina K. Flowers, LPC – “Your Expert” Profile

Community Support: As a “for-a-difference” company with socially responsible values, Ever Changing River, LLC will donate a portion of all “Your Experts” listing proceeds to local 501(c)(3) charities that in some manner educate and support individuals as they navigate the separation and divorce process.  Ever Changing River, LLC thanks all companies who list their services on our website, as their actions make this charitable donation possible.

Separation and Divorce 101 Workshop, Gainesville, VA, Jan 22

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”

— Martin Luther King, Jr.

I have seen this quote, and different versions of it, many times over the years.  Each time it strikes me how strong Dr. King’s faith was, and how that shaped his life and his actions.

While his quote was not directed specifically toward people contemplating separation or divorce, his wisdom nonetheless applies.  Sometimes you just have to take the first step, without knowing the outcome.  That first step can be to gain knowledge.   Knowledge first, then action.

If separation or divorce might be just around the bend in your river of life, your first step might be to attend a workshop to learn from experts about the legal, financial and emotional aspects of divorce.  If you live in Northern Virginia, or even Maryland or DC, please consider attending our Divorce 101 workshop in Gainesville, VA on Saturday, Jan 22, beginning at 9 AM.  We call the workshop River BaNC — BAsic Navigational Course.

Our therapist will talk about the 8 types of abuse, including but not limited to emotional and physical. Our family law attorney will talk about the legal aspects of divorce, with an eye toward litigation. And our financial expert will talk about some basic financial truths you need to know as you contemplate creating two households.  We will also cover the current real estate and mortgage markets.

You are not alone. With knowledge and support, you can begin to create your plan.  Visit our website for complete details and to pre-register.  We are here to help.

And please take a moment to remember Martin Luther King, Jr. today, all he stood for, and all he accomplished in his lifetime.