Kids are Not Confidants – Helping Children Cope with Divorce

The following post was submitted by Kathy Teeple, M.A.  Overburdening your children with every detail about your divorce process is not helping them.  Read “Kids are Not Confidants” to learn more about helping children cope with divorce.

Kids Are Not Confidants

By Kathy L. Teeple, M.A.

There’s an old phrase “misery loves company” and it’s true … when you’re miserable you want to share it with others.  I know when I’m feeling down the thing I crave the most is someone with whom I can whine and complain … I want someone to take my side, pat my hand and agree that things are awful.   And when my whining is justified it makes things better.

When you separate you are given the biggest ticket out there to unlimited whining, and it’s justified.  You can gather your friends and they will all agree that life is not fair, you deserve better, and, yes, your spouse is the biggest jerk in the world.  Friends are great when going through a separation and a divorce.  They lift your spirits, they give you encouragement, and they listen without judgment.  But your friends have their own lives and they are not always available at a moment’s notice.  Plus, as your separation drags on you simply don’t want to constantly call your friends and burden them with your misery.  So you turn to the next best thing … your children.  Oh, this is a bad idea on so many levels, but it is a common occurrence.

Kids are an easy target for complaints during separation and divorce.  They’re easily accessible and they’re often a captive audience.  Sometimes complaining to them happens quite by accident.  You are overwhelmed by the circumstances and you lash out.  Perhaps you’ve just spoken to your estranged spouse and need somewhere to unload your anger or frustration.  It’s so easy to turn to your child and say “Your mom/dad is such a jerk.  S/He’s refusing …”

Sometimes a parent will use the misguided idea of “truth” to justify his/her confidences to a child.  I’ve worked with parents who tell me that they have never lied to their child and won’t begin now.  While that’s a noble idea, it isn’t a necessarily a great idea in separation.  It is too easy to confide too much in a child and overwhelm them.  Additionally, the “truth” you are telling is based on your perception of the situation.  Your spouse has another perception entirely.  If both of you are confiding your perceptions of the “truth” the children can easily become confused.

While some parents confide in their children on an occasional/accidental basis, others do it in a calculated manner that is designed to sway the children to their “side.”  This is a dangerous practice.  Children view both parents as a source of security.  If one parent is constantly berating or degrading the other parent that undermines the child’s sense of security.  In the short term a child may side with one parent over the other, but over time the child may begin to resent the parent’s berating of the other parent.

Helping Children Cope With Divorce

Information can be a good thing, but children may feel overburdened with too much information about your separation and divorce.  Children naturally worry when their parents separate. If you are using your child as your sounding board you are adding to their worry.  Children need to know the basics about separation and divorce; they need to know they are loved and that while things may be different, they will be okay.  Children don’t need to know every detail of your separation.  They don’t need to know your every concern, and they certainly don’t need to know your fears for the future.

It is natural to want to share your pain and fears with others, but choose carefully.  Children don’t need to know the specifics of your separation; they don’t need to know “where the bodies are hidden.”  They need to know that they a loved by both parents.

Ever Changing River, LLC educates individuals about the divorce process through online videos.  Currently offering limited-time introductory pricing at a 73% savings.  Read more at Why Join River BaNCTM.  

DISCLAIMER:  The information provided on Ever Changing River, LLC website, or at any Ever Changing River, LLC program, is not legal, financial, medical, therapeutic, counseling, mediation, coaching, real estate or mortgage advice.  No attorney/client, doctor/patient, or other relationship is formed through this website or through Ever Changing River, LLC programs.  Ever Changing River, LLC is not a referral service.  Any advertisement on this website, or at any Ever Changing River, LLC program, or in any Ever Changing River, LLC publication, does not in any way constitute a referral or endorsement by Ever Changing River, LLC. 

 

 

Jan 22, Focus on ME, Separation and Divorce Support Group, Ashburn, VA

Visit our website for more information on all of our programs.

Gain knowledge and support.  Be proactive and protect your future.

Save time and money by attending multiple Focus Groups.  Speak with the professionals.

Typically each month Ever Changing River, LLC presents three Focus Groups – one each concentrating on the emotional, financial and legal aspects of separation and divorce.  You do not need to go through this process alone.  And if it is overwhelming for you right now, consider asking a friend to attend with you.  Let us know ahead of time, and your friend can attend with you at no cost.

When:    Tues, Jan 22, Focus on Me

                  Support group, open topic, led by therapist

                  6:30 to 8:00 PM

Where:  Long and Foster Realtors

43490 Yukon Drive, Suite 205

Ashburn, VA   20147

Cost:     $15/pre-registered; $20/door (or free for members*)

Scholarships available.

Registration Link for Focus on ME, Jan 22

Focus on ME:  Our monthly groups are “open topic” support groups facilitated by a therapist or coach.  This month we are led by Rona Hitlin-Mason, LPC, a therapist practicing in Herndon, Virgina.  See her bio below.

You do not need to go through a difficult time like separation and divorce by yourself.  Are you anxious or depressed about a possible separation or divorce?  Are you having difficulty communicating with your spouse, or former spouse?  Are the children having challenges in their lives?  Are you showing signs of anxiety or depression?  Or maybe you’re already divorced, and have lingering challenges.  Maybe you just want to better understand the emotional stages of separation and divorce.  Bring your questions, challenges, doubts and concerns, and let’s tackle them together.  No matter what stage you are at in this process, there is help.  Emotions are not linear…and neither is success.  Join us, and let’s talk it over.

This month’s therapist:  Rona Hitlin-Mason, LPC also holds Masters degrees in Counseling and Development and Accounting, and a Post-Master’s Certificate in Marriage and Family Therapy.  She strongly believes that you have the strength and skills to weather this transition in your life.  And she finds it an honor to accompany people on their journey to self-acceptance and relief of symptoms.  

* Focus Groups Membership Package:  $60.00 for six months, which lets you attend attend all “Focus” groups at no additional charge (a $210 savings) within your membership period.  Attend as many times as you wish during your membership period to gain support and knowledge.  We will generally offer three Focus groups each month, one each focusing on the legal, money or “me” aspects of separation and divorce. 


Disclaimer Focus Groups, River Chat, River BaNC and all other Ever Changing River, LLC programs are intended for informational purposes only.  They do not constitute legal, financial, emotional, real estate or mortgage advice or counseling.  You should seek the advice of qualified legal, financial, psychological, real estate, mortgage and any other necessary professionals regarding your own individual situation outside of any Ever Changing River, LLC program.

 

What others are saying:

“I learned so much.  I feel better about my situation, knowing that I am not alone.”

I will absolutely recommend this program.”

“Empowering!”

“What a great workshop format for individuals who are trying to educate themselves on the various aspects of separating and/or divorce.  The environment was awesome, and a really great selection of presenters.”

Tues, Nov 20th, Focus on LAW, 6:30-8 PM, Ashburn, VA

Visit our website for more information on all of our programs. 

Link to pre-register.

Gain knowledge and support. Be proactive and protect your future.

Save time and money by attending multiple Focus Groups. Speak with the professionals.

Typically each month Ever Changing River, LLC presents three Focus Groups – one each concentrating on the emotional, financial and legal aspects of separation and divorce. You do not need to go through this process alone. And if it is overwhelming for you right now, consider asking a friend to attend with you. Let us know ahead of time, and your friend can attend with you at no cost.

When: Tuesday, Nov 20, Focus on Law

Legal Aspects of Separation and Divorce in Virginia

Plus an update on the real estate market

6:30 to 8:00 PM

Where: Ashburn Long and Foster Realtors Training Room

43490 Yukon Drive, Suite # 205

Ashburn, VA 20147

Cost: $15/pre-registered; $20/door (or free for members*)

LEGAL ASPECTS:

Christine Mougin-Boal, Esquire, an attorney practicing family law, will give an overview of the legal aspects of divorce, including the separation and divorce process, equitable property distribution, and custody and support guidelines.

REAL ESTATE ASPECTS:

Pamela Jones, ABR, CRB, GRI, of Pamela Jones, Inc., Long and Foster Realtors, is a career REALTOR® who began working with buyers and sellers in 1983. Pam wil give an update of the local real estate market, which differs vastly from the “national” picture we so often hear about. She will answer your real estate questions.

* Focus Groups Membership Package: $60.00 for six months, which lets you attend attend all “Focus” groups at no additional charge (a $210 savings) within your membership period. Attend as many times as you wish during your membership period to gain support and knowledge. We will generally offer three Focus groups each month, one each focusing on the legal, money or “me” aspects of separation and divorce.

Disclaimer: Focus Groups, River Chat, River BaNC and all other Ever Changing River, LLC programs are intended for informational purposes only. They do not constitute legal, financial, emotional, real estate or mortgage advice or counseling. You should seek the advice of qualified legal, financial, psychological, real estate, mortgage and any other necessary professionals regarding your own individual situation outside of any Ever Changing River, LLC program.

What others are saying:

“I learned so much. I feel better about my situation, knowing that I am not alone.”

“I will absolutely recommend this program.”

“Empowering!”

“What a great workshop format for individuals who are trying to educate themselves on the various aspects of separating and/or divorce. The environment was awesome, and a really great selection of presenters.”

Success in Divorce is all about Education and Support – June 2, 2012 Ashburn VA Workshop

Successful individuals, when faced with the unknown, are fearful like everyone else, but they are not controlled or limited by their fear. They work through it…often with education to demystify the unknown.

If you are facing separation and divorce, attend our workshop this Saturday, June 2, at Long & Foster in Ashburn.   Learn about the legal, financial, emotional and real estate implications of separation and divorce.  Read more.   http://www.everchangingriver.com/Ashburn_VA_Divorce_Workshop.html

April 14, 2012, Separation and Divorce Workshop, Ashburn, VA. Mediation, Financial, Emotional Support and Real Estate Aspects Covered

April 14th – Separation and Divorce Workshop, Ashburn, VA  Visit our website for complete details and program information.

Ever Changing River, LLC is a local online and in-person educational resource about the issues surrounding separation and divorce, no matter where you are in the process. Decisions made at this critical juncture will impact the rest of your life. Oftentimes you must make important decisions when you are in emotional turmoil and least able to think rationally.

Divorce happens. Complete devastation as a result of divorce does not have to happen. Solid knowledge leads to better choices….and a better life following divorce, for you and your family.  Be proactive about your future.

When: April 14, 2012, 8:30 AM to 1:15 pm
Where: Long and Foster Realtors
43490 Yukon Drive, Suite 205
Ashburn, VA 20147
Cost: $30/pre-registered; $40/door; $15/returning attendees

Pre-registger here.

April 14, 2012 Presenters

Family Mediation Aspects: Daniel R. Burk, President, Resolution Point, LLC, and Family Mediator at Northern Virginia Mediation Service, serves Loudoun, Fairfax, Alexandria and Arlington. Danny Burk is an attorney licensed by the Commonwealth of Virginia since 1981 and the District of Columbia since 1984. He is also a Virginia Supreme Court certified mediator. Mr. Burke will talk about family mediation, what the process is, what is involved, and how it works.

Financial Aspects: Linda Black, ChFC, CRPC, has worked in the financial services industry for over 12 years. She has earned her Chartered Financial Consultant (ChFC) and Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor (CRPC) designations. Her practice is focused on financial planning and retirement income solutions for women. Linda helps her clients make financial decisions based on where they want to go next. She fully subscribes to a transformational approach to financial planning as opposed to a transactional one. Linda is licensed in Virginia and Maryland. Linda will talk about creating budgets for two households, valuing and dividing assets, the scenario approach to decisions, and retirement issues.

Emotional Aspects: Nina K. Flowers, LPC, MEd., of counseling Solutions, Inc., provides psychotherapy services for adults, adolescents, and children through individual, family and couples counseling. She has particular expertise in counseling those who are coping with their own or a family members’ abuse, mood or anxiety disorders, relationship or self-esteem concerns, ADD/ADHD and other disorders. Her primary theoretical orientations are Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy and Play Therapy. Nina will talk about the anxiety and stree — what they are, how to recognize them, and coping mechanisms.

Real Estate Aspects: Pamela Jones, ABR, CRB, GRI, Pamela Jones, Inc., Long and Foster Realtors, is a career REALTOR® who began working with buyers and sellers in1983. Her dedication to her clients made her the #1 agent in Loudoun County in 2006. Pam has excellent business sense, detailed knowledge of the local market, and outstanding negotiating skills. Pam will give an update of the local real estate market, which differs vastly from the “national” picture we so often hear about.

Life Coaching Aspects:  Ever Changing River, LLC, will lead you through some exercises to help you explore your next steps and create a “next steps” action plan. This action plan will be different for each person…from “let me continue to think about all this” to “here are my top 3 items to complete by next Friday.” It is important to find the approach that is best for you, not someone else.

What River BaNC Attendees Are Saying:

“What a great workshop format for individuals who are trying to educate themselves on the various aspects of separating and/or divorce. The environment was awesome, and a really great selection of presenters.”

“I learned so much from all the speakers. I feel better about my situation, knowing that I am not alone.”

“I will absolutely recommend this program.”

“Empowering!”

Disclaimer: River BaNC, River Chat and all Ever Changing River, LLC programs are intended for informational purposes only. They do not constitute legal, financial, emotional, real estate or mortgage advice or counseling. You should seek the advice of qualified legal, financial, psychological, real estate, mortgage and any other necessary professionals regarding your own individual situation outside of any Ever Changing River, LLC program.

 

Divorce Education, March 3, Ashburn, VA – When Separation or Divorce Might be in your Future

Visit our website for complete details and to register.

Join us Saturday, March 3, 2012, in Ashburn, Virginia, when we hold our Separation and Divorce Educational Workshop. Learn from professionals in the family law, financial and therapy fields about approaches to the legal, financial and emotional aspects of divorce.

Our presenters:

Legal Aspects: Patricia E. Tichenor, Esq., owner and principal attorney of The Law Office of Patricia E. Tichenor, P.L.L.C., is an experienced domestic relations and general law attorney serving clients in Northern Virginia since October 2001. Ms. Tichenor is dedicated to helping clients move forward with their lives, fighting to protect their rights with respect to custody, visitation, child support, and spousal support. If an amicable settlement can be reached, Ms. Tichenor works to make the divorce process as simple, affordable and quick as possible. Ms. Tichenor will give an overview of the legal aspects of divorce, including the separation and divorce process, equitable property distribution, and custody and support guidelines.

Financial Aspects: Pamela J. Sams, CRPC, is a Financial Advisor with Financial Planning Services in Northern Virginia. For 10 years, she has been helping women and their families improve their personal and financial wealth through good financial planning. Her education and training enables her to help clients successfully navigate through the myriad of personal and financial decisions they face during their lives. She assists them in attaining a higher level of financial security through education, understanding, and scenario planning. Pamela will talk about creating budgets for two households, valuing and dividing assets, the scenario approach to decisions, and retirement issues.

Emotional Aspects: Rona Hitlin-Mason, LPC, also holds Masters degrees in Counseling and Development and Accounting, and a Post-Master’s Certificate in Marriage and Family Therapy. She strongly believes that you have the strength and skills to weather this transition in your life, and she finds it an honor to accompany people on their journey to self-acceptance and relief of symptoms. Rona will give you an emotional roadmap, talking about the emotional stages of divorce and how best to manage yourself during this journey. Her talk is entitled: Right Now It’s Normal to feel “Crazy”!!

Real Estate Aspects: Pamela Jones, ABR, CRB, GRI, Pamela Jones, Inc., Long and Foster Realtors, is a career REALTOR® who began working with buyers and sellers in1983. Her dedication to her clients made her the #1 agent in Loudoun County in 2006. Pam has excellent business sense, detailed knowledge of the local market, and outstanding negotiating skills. Pam will give an update of the local real estate market, which differs vastly from the “national” picture we so often hear about.

Life Coaching Aspects: Ever Changing River, LLC, will lead you through some exercises to help you explore your core values and beliefs, and then create your “next steps” action plan. This action plan will be different for each person…from “let me continue to think about all this” to “here are my top 3 items to complete by next Friday.” It is important to find the approach that is best for you, not someone else.

Disclaimer: River BaNC and River Chat programs are intended for informational purposes only. They do not constitute legal, financial, emotional, real estate or mortgage advice or counseling. You should seek the advice of qualified legal, financial, psychological, real estate, mortgage and any other necessary professionals regarding your own individual situation outside of any Ever Changing River, LLC program.

Sat, Nov 5, 2011 Northern Virginia (Ashburn) Workshop Answers the Question: How Do I Get A Divorce in Virginia? Including Tips for Surviving the Holidays.

Link to Workshop website. As the Holidays approach, our upcoming workshops will include tips for surviving the Holidays while you are in the midst of separation and divorce.  We are here to give you solid knowledge and support during this difficult time.  You are not alone.

Our next Northern Virginia Separation and Divorce workshop, “River BaNC ™ (Basic Navigational Course)”, is Saturday, Nov 5, in Ashburn. If you or a friend are facing separation or divorce in Northern Virginia (Arlington, Fairfax, Loudoun, Prince William and surrounding counties), please consider attending this workshop. We cover the basic legal, financial and emotional aspects of divorce, plus give you a current update on the real estate market in our area. This month we also have a life coaching segment. Better knowledge leads to better choices, for you and your family. Complete details at Ever Changing River, LLC website.

Our presenters are Patricia E. Tichenor, Esq., family law attorney; Pamela J. Sams, CRPC, financial advisor; Kathy Teeple, MA, parenting coach; Pamela Jones, ABR, with Long & Foster, and Life Coaching segment by Ever Changing River, LLC. Speakers are hyperlinked below.

When: Saturday, Nov 5, 8:30 AM to 1:15 PM
Where: Long & Foster, 43490 Yukon Drive, Suite 205, Ashburn, VA 20147

OUR SPEAKERS: November 5, 2011

Legal Aspects: Patricia E. Tichenor, Esq., owner and principal attorney of The Law Office of Patricia E. Tichenor, P.L.L.C., is an experienced domestic relations and general law attorney serving clients in Northern Virginia since October 2001. Ms. Tichenor is dedicated to helping clients move forward with their lives, fighting to protect their rights with respect to custody, visitation, child support, and spousal support. If an amicable settlement can be reached, Ms. Tichenor works to make the divorce process as simple, affordable and quick as possible. Ms. Tichenor will give an overview of the legal aspects of divorce, including the separation and divorce process, equitable property distribution, and custody and support guidelines.

Financial Aspects: Pamela J. Sams, CRPC, is a Financial Advisor with Financial Planning Services in Northern Virginia. For 10 years, she has been helping women and their families improve their personal and financial wealth through good financial planning. Her education and training enables her to help clients successfully navigate through the myriad of personal and financial decisions they face during their lives. She assists them in attaining a higher level of financial security through education, understanding and scenario planning. Pamela will talk about creating budgets for two households, valuing and dividing assets, the scenario approach, and retirement issues.

Emotional Aspects: Kathy Teeple, MA, with Pathways Parenting & Coaching, LLC, is passionate about children. Parenting issues can arise at any time during separation and even long after the final decree of divorce has been entered. For the past 10 years she has worked with parents in all stages of separation and divorce through Divorce Mediation Plus, Inc., in Leesburg, VA. Kathy has assisted parents in negotiation of a parenting agreement that is acceptable to everyone and emphasizing ways to improve and strengthen the on-going parenting relationship. With Master’s Degrees in both Counseling and Forensic Psychology, Kathy is a frequent guest lecturer on the topics of mediation, emotional issues of divorce, and the affect of divorce on children. Kathy will talk about the emotional stages of divorce and give you parenting tips to help your family during and following divorce.

Life Coach Aspects: Ever Changing River, LLC, will help you explore your core values and create your “next steps” action plan. These steps will be different for each person…from “let me continue to think about this all” to “here are my top 3 items I will complete by next Friday.” It is important to find the approach that is best for you, not someone else.

Real Estate Aspects: Pamela Jones, ABR, CRB, GRI, of Pamela Jones, Inc., Long and Foster Realtors, is a career REALTOR® who began working with buyers and sellers in1983. Her dedication to her clients made her the #1 agent in Loudoun County in 2006. Pam has excellent business sense, detailed knowledge of the local market, and outstanding negotiating skills. Pam will give an update of the local real estate market, which differs vastly from the “national” picture we so often hear about.

Disclaimer: River BaNC and River Chat programs are intended for informational purposes only. They do not constitute legal, financial, emotional, real estate or mortgage advice or counseling. You should seek the advice of qualified legal, financial, psychological, real estate, mortgage, and any other necessary professionals regarding your own individual situation outside of any Ever Changing River, LLC program.

Family Law Attorney Elizabeth M. Ross, Esquire, to Speak Saturday, Oct 1, in Ashburn, VA, on How do I get a divorce in Virginia? Separation and Divorce Workshop

In addition to Linda Black, ChFC, CRPC, who will cover the financial side of things, and Rona Hitlin-Mason, LPC, who will cover the emotional aspects, you will hear from Elizabeth M. Ross, Esquire, of Lieblich and Graimes, P.C., on the legal aspects of divorce. Pam Jones of Long and Foster will also give you an update on the local real estate market.

Here is Elizabeth’s bio:

Legal Aspects: Elizabeth M. Ross, Esq, of Lieblich & Grimes, P.C.  Ms. Ross was selected to Virginia Rising Stars in both 2011 and 2010 by Super Lawyers.  She is trained in collaborative law.  She practices all areas of family law, including divorce, equitable distribution, settlement  agreements, custody, support and post-divorce issues.  She also serves as a Guardian ad litem representing children in custody and abuse and neglect cases.  She practices in the Circuit Courts and Juvenile and Domestic Relations Courts of Loudoun, Alexandria, Fairfax, Prince William, Arlington & other jurisdictions.  Elizabeth will cover the basic legal aspects of divorce in Virginia, including how to obtain a divorce in Virginia, child and spousal support guidelines, and equitable property distribution.

Follow this link for more details about this valuable separation and divorce workshop on October 1, 2011, held in Ashburn, VA from 8:30 AM until 1:15 PM. You will save time and money by attending and gaining strong knowledge about the separation and divorce process as you navigate your way through it all. This workshop is attended by individuals throughout Northern Virginia. Long and Foster is easy to find, and parking is free. Studies show that having support as you go through this process adds to your success. Therefore, we are now offering to have a friend attend with you at no cost. Just email info@EverChangingRiver.com to let us know a friend will attend with you.

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River BaNCTM is an informational workshop, a Basic Navigational Course, through the complexities of how to get a divorce in Virginia.  You will meet local divorce experts and learn practical information about how to become unmarried.  By attending you gain empowering knowledge and support.  Attending can save you time and money as you begin to consider your next steps.

Who should attend? If you or a friend are facing separation or divorce, and are in the DC, Maryland or Northern Virginia area, you should attend this workshop to learn the basic legal, financial and emotional aspects of separation and divorce. You will also receive information about creating a plan for your next steps…from “continue to think about this” to “these are my top 3 steps to complete by next Friday.”  As always, you will receive an update on the current, and ever changing, real estate market.  We will share additional separation and divorce informational resources throughout the workshop.

Attending does not mean you will divorce.  Attending means you will have solid, practical knowledge should you need it in the future.

When: Saturday, October 1, 2011, 8:15 AM to 1:15 PM, at Long & Foster, 43490 Yukon Drive, Suite 205, Ashburn, VA, 20147. Pre-registration preferred. $30/pre-registered; $40/door; $15/returning.  Register here.

If you would like to attend with a friend, please do.  Your friend can attend with you at no charge; please email info@EverChangingRiver.com to let us know they will be attending with you.  Also, scholarships are available.  Email us to discuss.

Additional information at www.EverChangingRiver.com.

OUR SPEAKERS: October 1, 2011


Legal Aspects: Elizabeth M. Ross, Esq,
of Lieblich & Grimes, P.C.  Ms. Ross was selected to Virginia Rising Stars in both 2011 and 2010 by Super Lawyers.  She is trained in collaborative law.  She practices all areas of family law, including divorce, equitable distribution, settlement  agreements, custody, support and post-divorce issues.  She also serves as a Guardian ad litem representing children in custody and abuse and neglect cases.  She practices in the Circuit Courts and Juvenile and Domestic Relations Courts of Loudoun, Alexandria, Fairfax, Prince William, Arlington & other jurisdictions.  Elizabeth will cover the basic legal aspects of divorce in Virginia, including how to obtain a divorce in Virginia, child and spousal support guidelines, and equitable property distribution.

Financial Aspects: Linda Black, ChFC, CRPC, has worked in the financial services industry for over 12 years.  She has earned her Chartered Financial Consultant (ChFC) and Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor (CRPC) designations.  Her practice is focused on financial planning and retirement income solutions for women.  Linda helps her clients make financial decisions based on where they want to go next.  She fully subscribed to a transformational approach to financial planning as opposed to a transactional one.  Linda is licensed in Virginia and Maryland.

Emotional Aspects: Rona Hitlin-Mason, LPC, also holds Masters degrees in Counseling and Development and Accounting, and a Post-Master’s Certificate in Marriage and Family Therapy.  She strongly believes that you have the strength and skills to weather this transition in  your life, and she finds it an honor to accompany people on their journey to self-acceptance and relief of symptoms.  Rona will give you an emotional roadmap, talking about the emotional stages of divorce and how best to manage yourself during this journey.  Her talk is entitled:  Right Now It’s Normal to feel “Crazy”!!

Life Coach Aspects: Ever Changing River, LLC, will help you explore your core values and create an action plan of your next steps.  These steps will be different for each person…from “let me continue to think about this all” to “here are my top 3 items I will complete by next Friday.”  It is important to find the approach that is best for you, not someone else.

Real Estate Aspects: Pamela Jones, ABR, CRB, GRI, of Pamela Jones, Inc., Long  and Foster Realtors, is a career REALTOR® who began working with buyers and sellers in1983.  Her dedication to her clients made her the #1 agent in Loudoun County in 2006.  Pam has excellent business sense, detailed knowledge of the local market, and outstanding negotiating skills.  Pam will give an update of the local real estate market, which differs vastly from the “national” picture we so often hear about.

Disclaimer: River BaNC and River Chat programs are intended for informational purposes only.  They do not constitute legal, financial, emotional, real estate or mortgage advice or counseling.  You should seek the advice of qualified legal, financial, psychological, real estate, mortgage, and any other necessary professionals regarding your own individual situation outside of any Ever Changing River, LLC program.

Oct 1, 2011 Ashburn, VA Workshop Answers the Question: How Do I Get A Divorce in Virginia?

Featured Speaker October 1, 2011:  Rona Hitlin-Mason, LPC, on The Emotional Aspects of Divorce

In addition to Elizabeth Ross, Esquire, who will talk about the legal aspects of divorce, and Linda Black, ChFC, CRPC, who will cover the financial side of things, you will hear from Rona Hitlin-Mason, LPC, on the emotional aspects of divorce.  Pam Jones of Long and Foster will also give you an update on the local real estate market.

Here is Rona’s bio:

Emotional Aspects:  Rona Hitlin-Mason, LPC, also holds Masters degrees in Counseling and Development and Accounting, and a Post-Master’s Certificate in Marriage and Family Therapy.  She strongly believes that you have the strength and skills to weather this transition in  your life, and she finds it an honor to accompany people on their journey to self-acceptance and relief of symptoms.  Rona will give you an emotional roadmap, talking about the emotional stages of divorce and how best to manage yourself during this journey.  Her talk is entitled:  Right Now It’s Normal to feel “Crazy”!!

Follow the link below for more details about this valuable separation and divorce workshop on October 1, 2011, held in Ashburn, VA from 8:30 AM until 1:15 PM.  You will save time and money by attending and gaining strong knowledge about the separation and divorce process as you navigate your way through it all.  This workshop is attended by individuals throughout Northern Virginia.  Long and Foster is easy to find, and parking is free.  Studies show that having support as you go through this process adds to your success.  Therefore, we are now offering to have a friend attend with you at no cost.  Just email info@EverChangingRiver.com to let us know a friend will attend with you.

Change..what’s life without it?

Visit Ever Changing River, LLC for more information on our programs.

“If nothing ever changed, there’d be no butterflies.”

– Author Unknown

I read this quote yesterday, while I was thinking about the many changes that are occurring in my life.  Last night, I saw a butterfly, and it was beautiful.  Sort of helped me put change, and my fear of change, into perspective.

If you are facing separation or divorce in the DC Metro area, consider attending one of our workshops where you will hear from a family law attorney, a financial adviser and a therapist about the legal, financial and emotional sides of divorce.  We also have real estate, accounting and taxes, health and wellness, coaching and career speakers from time to time.

Our next Ashburn, Virginia is Saturday, October 1, 2011, at Long and Foster (near Red Robin).  Details are at Ashburn, Virginia Separation and Divorce Workshops.