Voyage of Discovery As Seen Through Your New Eyes

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.”
– Marcel Proust

So many times we look at our problems, our challenges, the same way, with the same “eyes,” over and over and over. And yet we are surprised when we see the same results.

Instead, why not take a real voyage of discovery by trying a different perspective, seeing the situation with new eyes?

  • If you always look at something only from your point of view, instead try looking at it from “their” point of view.
  • Or, regardless of who “wins”, what does “success” look like for you? If your goal is to truly be able to move on from a bad situation, “winning” in the traditional sense often does not equal “success.”
  • Conversely, what does “failure” look like?  Maybe you get exactly what you are asking for, but what is the cost to you? to your family?  20 years from now will you consider this a success or a failure?  Hmmmm….

What do you see on your voyage of discovery with your new eyes? A possible solution?!! A powerful path forward? Try out your “new eyes” the next time you work on a life challenge and see what wonders you can discover!!!

If you are interested in life coaching, please contact us at  We offer a free introductory session.

July 7, How Do I Get a Divorce in Virginia Workshop, Ashburn, VA

Our next separation and divorce workshop, which covers the legal, financial, emotional and real estate aspects of separation and divorce, will be July 7th, 2012, 8:30 AM to 1:15 PM, at Long and Foster in Ashburn, VA. We answer the question: How do I get a divorce in Virginia?

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Success in Divorce is all about Education and Support – June 2, 2012 Ashburn VA Workshop

Successful individuals, when faced with the unknown, are fearful like everyone else, but they are not controlled or limited by their fear. They work through it…often with education to demystify the unknown.

If you are facing separation and divorce, attend our workshop this Saturday, June 2, at Long & Foster in Ashburn.   Learn about the legal, financial, emotional and real estate implications of separation and divorce.  Read more.

Divorcing Later In Life…How to Split the Money?

There are more and more articles talking about a growing trend – an increasing number of married couples in the United States getting divorced after very long marriages (see WSJ article below).  Some people are dubbing this the “gray divorce” trend.  No matter what you call it, if this is happening to you, one of your main concerns will be how to split up the nest egg.    If you or a friend are in this situation, this article is a must-read.

If you want additional, in-person information, we hold monthly workshops in Loudoun County, Virginia and Montgomery County, Maryland that cover the basics of Separation and Divorce.  While each workshop varies, in general at each workshop you will hear from a financial professional, a family law attorney and a therapist.  In addition, we often include the topics of real estate, mortgages, health and wellness, and career topics.  Check each workshop for the specific topics covered.  We also offer life coaching, with a sub-specialty of divorce coaching.  We help you through the separation and divorce process by sharing local resources and helping you create a plan that fits your needs.  We can then act as your accountability coach, if desired.  We are NOT therapists, but we are honored to be acquainted with a large number of amazing therapists and psychiatrists to whom we refer clients.

Please check out our website at for current programs and details.   You do not need to navigate these rough waters alone.  There are many resources to assist you.  You can start your financial education by reading this article by Kelly Greene of WSJ.

The ‘Splitting’ Headaches of Late-Life Divorce By KELLY GREENE

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“Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver announced their separation in May after 25 years together. Tipper and Al Gore separated last year after being married for four decades.

These long-wedded political couples are far from alone. A U.S. Census report issued earlier this year found that, over time, fewer first-time-married couples are making it to their 25th, 30th and 35th wedding anniversaries—even as life expectancies have increased.” Read more.